Small Steps Take A Lot of Work But are Worth It

Fostering a child is a worthy and sometimes challenging thing to do. But, it can be worth it to help these children learn, grow and develop. While foster care is by definition temporary it can have a massively positive impact on the children in it. That is the purpose and goal of National Foster Care Month (May). It is the month that wants to encourage people to foster a child and maybe even adopting them.

There have been many stories about the fostering process. And, we have one that is heart-warming and empowering. In December 2019, Michelle Morgan decided to take in a child who had been in twelve placements before he was ten years old. His story connected with her while she worked with the Court Appointed Special Advocates of Ventura County. She went to her husband and two young children to discuss her proposal, and they all agreed to it. Michelle did all the paperwork and within four months she and her husband completed their certification. It was around this time that “Jameson” became their foster son for over 11 months.

It is with spending time with “Jameson” that Michelle learned some interesting, and important lessons. The first is that overcoming challenges is extremely rewarding, and that “becoming us” as in a family is a constant negotiation. Plus, that she had to be more thoughtful and less reactive when it came to “Jameson”. It was with time, and nurturing that the family noticed positive changes in “Jameson”. So much so that Child and Family Services would be proud.

The Morgan family believes that they are making a positive change in “Jameson’s” life since he came to live with them. He has come out of his shell and talks about his feelings where before he did not. Another positive is that he would, not only talks but listen as well. This is important since at the beginning of living with the Morgans he would run away from conversations, or he would shut down when given constructive criticism. He has learned that disagreements are normal and that they can be worked through.

“Jameson” is now able to think about his future such as what he would like to study. He seems to be feeling hopeful which is a true gift for any parent to give their child. Michelle says that she would love to make him a permanent member of the family, and they are open to it.

Her advice to foster parents is that they should not think that they are playing superheroes for children. Instead of that, they should be open to what the child requires, and how to help them. It will be difficult at times, and, like any child, foster parents have to be there for them on their worst days. Plus, they need plenty of love and support. It is with these, time, effort, patience that the Morgans were able to help “Jameson.” Making it a great and encouraging story for National Foster Care Month.