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Women and Self-Blame
If you are a survivor of emotional and physical neglect, abuse or other traumatic event(s), you have learned coping skills to survive.
Trauma survivors have learned various coping mechanisms in order to survive. During childhood, self-blame is normal. Normal because as children we are our only reference points. Therefore, an abuse survivor may blame herself or himself for being abused.
Adults may experience feelings of anger and rage over something appearing very minute. However, to the abused individual they are re-experiencing anger from past abuse. They have not had opportunities to learn how to manage their feelings.
Obviously, nothing can make past trauma's disappear. However, there is always an opportunity to learn more effective emotional management skills. There's no better time than now!