New Shabby Chic, Boho Shop A Dream Realized For Remsenburg Domestic Violence Survivor

EASTPORT, NY — For months, Facebook friends have clamored for Remsenburg resident Lisa Oehler's beautifully painted, shabby chic pieces, bidding on the furniture and carefully distressed signs in the hopes of bringing her artistry home.

And now, her loyal clientele and many new customers will have the chance to purchase Oehler's work at a brand-new store, Hampton's Consignment Shoppe, to be located at 510B Montauk Highway in Eastport.

Her store, Oehler said, is expected to open sometime this month, with a vision that's a mix of vintage, bohemian chic vibe, and eclectic. "Clothing is trendy, making a unique fashion statement," she said.

Oehler said she is inspired by unique, one of a kind decor.

"People have always commented my style as far as decorating and fashion," she said. "I wanted to be able to share my taste with everyone. It makes me smile when I see my pieces in the homes or businesses of others."

Offered at the shop will be women's and children's designer clothing, handbags, shoes, costume jewelry, scarves, shabby chic boho style furniture and home goods.

Signature items include Oehler's hand-painted signs. And, from a fashion perspective, she enjoys being able to create a great outfit from head to toe for any woman, in all tastes and styles, she said.

Down the line, she may offer classes to those hoping to learn her artistic technique.

Oehler, also a personal trainer, said having a shop has been a dream for a long time. With her third child heading to college next year, she now has the time now to focus on transforming her vision into reality.

"I'm honestly still pinching myself to make sure I'm awake and this is really coming to fruition. I'm excited to bring something to the community that is affordable and the only if it's kind around," she said.

Oehler's happy ending began with a painful reality she lived years ago, as the victim of domestic violence.

Domestic violence survivor speaks

A mother trapped in a marriage marked by abuse, Oehler said, "I had to start selling my own furniture years ago . . . so I could feed the kids and put gas in the car," she said, noting that she needed the funds when her former spouse was arrested and charged with abuse.

"When I was married to my ex-husband, I used to drive around bawling my eyes out, wondering how I got trapped in such an abusive marriage. I knew that wasn't who I was. Despite struggling for 18 years with him, I still had 3 kids I had to get up for every morning."

Her children, Oehler said, kept her pushing through each dark day.

"It took awhile but I woke up one morning and knew myself and the children deserved happiness. I had no money — but this wave of strength literally came over me. I decided it was time for Super Mom to prevail. I would tell other women to lean on friends and family and know that there are so many agencies and people with life experience that will always lend a helping hand, whether it's financial or emotional support," Oehler said.

The road to today's happiness is painted with joy, Oehler said.

"My lifelong encouragement came from my parents Cheryl and Bruce. My everyday encouragement comes from my biggest fan, my husband Dennis. And of course from my children R.J., Reece, Samantha, and stepchildren Jen and Nicky."

The day she began renovating the new space, a step forward that made her teary eyed, her husband surprised her.

"It was during a memorable moment for me. I had been painting all day and he brought me salmon cakes and wine so we could cheer my first official day I got the key. We literally ate it on the floor using a roll of paper towels as a table," she said, laughing.

Her new dream is a shining phoenix of hope, rising from the ashes of her past, a sure symbol that life for domestic violence victims can change — it all begins with a single step forward into a new future and a heart open to love, Oehler said.

"My husband really is the greatest inspiration for this entire venture," she said.

To help other women walking that dark and painful path, Oehler said she will create small signs that say, "Hope", which will cost $10, with 50% of the proceeds donated to domestic violence prevention and awareness.

"I have a big spot in my heart for anyone going through that," she said.

Hampton's Consignment Shoppe will be open 10 a.m. to 6 p.m., 7 days a week.

Patch photo courtesy Lisa Oehler.