'Ask Debbie Sue' Dating Advice

Everyone, Stay healthy and Stay safe during this horrendous time in our lives with the COVID-19 Pandemic. During the 'Shelter in Place' order, try to do things at home to keep busy. I dusted, vacuumed & cleaned my place. Cleaned out my closets. Board games are always a fun activity to do with your significant other & your family. If you enjoy cooking, cook a good meal for yourself, if you're single. Or cook for your partner. Watching a good movie on the television is also a good way to pass the time. You can read a good book. (Maybe one of my 3 books.) Exercising is also good to do. I enjoy taking long walks. You can find stretching exercises, workouts & dance videos you can follow along online.

I've received many e-mails from my female readers about a topic other than 'dating.' They're asking what to do when one their girlfriends becomes way too possessive & interferes with their daily lives. I've also had a few e-mails from my male readers regarding this similar topic. One guy wrote that he has a male friend he's known for six years that wants to hang out with him all the time. Even when he goes out with his bowling buddies. He gets jealous and doesn't want him to go bowling or go out to dinner with any other male friends. My single and divorced readers didn't know how to handle this type of situation. I'm enclosing my reply.

Dear Debbie Sue: 'One of my girlfriends that I've known for over a year is becoming possessive. She didn't start out being this way. Now it's getting worse. We met at an aerobics class. I used to enjoy hanging out with her alone, going to movies and parties or for drinks after work. If I invite her with me and my friends, she keeps asking them to go out without ME! She asks for their phone number and email and keeps calling and texting them. It's very disturbing that she can't leave my friends alone. She also buys similar clothes that I wear. She orders the same type of food I like to eat anytime we go out to restaurants together. The other day she asked for my boyfriend's phone number! Should I end the friendship? My other friends don't enjoy her interference either. I have plenty of good friends without her.' Patricia

Dear Patricia, It sounds like you know the answer already. If this girlfriend keeps interfering with your friends and your life, speak to her about your feelings. Explain to her that you would like her to leave your friends alone. She should have her own friends. Tell her she needs to wear clothes that are 'her own' style, not yours. She needs to find her own boyfriend and leave yours alone. Imitation is the best form of flattery, but not in this case. Your girlfriend obviously is lonely. She needs to have a life of her own. Explain your feelings to her. If she continues to interfere with your friends- you should end the friendship with her and hang out with your other good friends. She was not a friend to you. Good luck to you.

To the guy who asked for a private reply: Your new male buddy that keeps interfering with your life- needs his own life. I would definitely hang out with your 'lifelong' buddies and leave this new one behind. Eventually, he'll stop calling you and he'll leave you alone.

Until next time.. Stay healthy and be safe!

Debbie Sue

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Debbie Sue Goodman is an author & comedian. Debbie Sue is an author of the books:

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