'Dating Advice' With Author & Comedian: Debbie Sue Goodman

I hope everyone's doing well & having a good summer. Watching the news everyday has been very heartbreaking. This month I'm answering a question that I've received from several of my readers. About losing touch with a good friend that has either moved far away or friends that don't see each other anymore after many years of friendship. During these times of social distancing, it's hard not to visit close friends & family in person. A lot of people are using Zoom & face time to socialize.

I'm enclosing a poem from my first book. I wrote this poem many years ago, when one of my dear friends moved out of state & the distance between us had changed our friendship. We lost touch. I'm also answering a couple of questions from readers that wished to remain anonymous. Several male readers wrote that they 'miss' their buddies from college or their neighbors or whoever they were friends with after years of hanging out together. It's hard not to be sad that the friendships have ended. Remember though, that people come in & out of your life for a reason. Treasure the times you shared together with your buddy/friend. Always remember the good times. When things begin opening up again, you can join a meet-up group or start a hobby you enjoy and meet new friends.

I miss you dear friend wherever you are,

We were so close, you were my best friend.

Dear Debbie Sue: "I'm dating a guy for a few months and thought he was relationship material. We have a lot in common. I like sports. We play basketball & go golfing together. He has a cell phone issue. He keeps looking at his phone while we're out anywhere. While he's at my apartment watching a baseball game & sitting together, he keeps staring at his phone. He's always answering his emails & phone calls. I've talked to him about it. He holds my hand while we're out doing different activities. He has one hand on mine & one hand holding his phone & looking at it. He tells me not to be upset about it. He can't seem to put his phone down. Feels like I'm in competition with a cell phone. Should I give up on this relationship?" Fed up

Dear Fed Up: Tell him you want to talk to him 'face to face' without his cell phone on. Tell him to turn the phone off & look at you while you're talking. Unless he has a job that requires him to answer his phone all day & night, then there's no reason for him to constantly be looking at his phone & answering calls. I've written several columns about, 'Cell Phone etiquette.' Writing e-mails, texting, answering calls while you're on a date is simply rude. You're not giving the other person your full attention. If your date can't change his behavior. Then definitely consider 'hanging up' on this relationship. It won't be hard finding someone else that will give you their 'full attention.'

Dear Anonymous: To my reader that misses her best friend from college. Sometimes friends grow apart. Your friend moved out of state two years ago and you both lost track of each other. You mentioned you still have her e-mail but not her phone number. You should write her a nice note and tell her how much you miss talking to her. If you were friends for 20 years and didn't have a disagreement, maybe she started a new life or just got busy when she moved. Old friends are golden. If you write to her, I have a feeling she'll be very happy to hear from you.

Until next time.. Stay healthy and Stay safe.

'Keep Smiling!'

Debbie Sue

www.stillsingle.org

Debbie Sue is an author & comedian. She is an author of the books, 'Still Single' 'Still Dating' & 'My Husband the Stranger.' She also wrote the screenplay, 'Dating Dilemmas.'

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