Keeping Photos of Kids Off of Online Dating Sites

The fellow was going through a divorce. So he texts his boyfriend "thinking of online dating. Pathetic." When he asked the boyfriend "Are you alright with this?" he got an absolute NO. What kind of guy tells the guy that he says he loves that he wants to date women too? There's a wall of silence between them now, for obvious reasons.

But the story - as told to me - this writer has heard is the rule, not the exception.

The story was that the fellow, totally immersed in a relationship with another man, wanted to find a wealthy woman to "take care of him." That's what he said to the fellow verbally, but on text he made some graphic comments about what he wanted to do with the women, in the Biblical sense.

If true, I think that is cruel and unusual treatment of anyone caring for another human being.

So why put pictures of two little children on a dating site when he already told the boyfriend that his goal was to find a woman with money to take care of him, and for - let's be polite - physical contact.

"He started lining up these desperate women," the boyfriend wrote me, "spending all his time meeting strangers when he told me I was more important than all of them."

According to the boyfriend there was a laundry list of women, two to meet on Sunday (spending a small fortune on dinners,) one to meet on Wednesday, more for the weekend. "He held his hand up high saying I was way up there, and twiddled his fingers that this parade of women meant nothing." From listening to the victim, the guy who took care of him, it seems to me that the guy wanted his cake and eat it too!

Also, a laundry list of women to date quickly seems like a bisexual man desperate to be macho and to prove to those around him that he's not gay. Press laughter button now when he had a fellow sleeping over, according to my source, night after night after night.

"I called him on that Wednesday evening when he texted me about a woman he called Southern Belle. He was all excited about her describing to me that they were French kissing and that this one might be a keeper. It was crushing to me. Then the next day she dumped him. The woman he had over for Christmas eve seems to have dumped him too.* (the story gets uglier, see below - Judy.) Then the ex wife caught the photo or photos of the two children on the site. If only she knew what I knew."

What the soon-to-be-departing boyfriend knew was that he used the kids as bait, and that he had lied to his boyfriend about how important he was. Even though the boyfriend claimed that he kept the fellow from committing suicide in October of 2018, and held his hand through hypochondria episodes. What a Casanova con-artist, if the story is true. And being provided texts, e mails and an episode about a check deposit you'll read further down, I believe it to be true.

The ex-wife reportedly was outraged, and justifiably so, if true. The boyfriend told his man weeks before how inappropriate posting the photos of his own little children under the age of ten was in this day and age. The boyfriend said that he was admonished for bringing up the kids with, as the boyfriend reported to this writer, a "don't you EVER question my love for my kids."

OK, if all of this information is true, I - this writer - will certainly question the man's judgment.

The boyfriend also stated that he was told the ex-husband was going to keep the kids on the online dating site to spite the ex-wife. If he did, clear evidence that he was using the kids in a tug of war regarding the divorce. And that is despicable.

Mr. Casanova, reportedly, was dumped time after time, so he focused on two women with the same name, calling them Exxxx 1 and Exxxxx2. Well, according to the boyfriend the individual made unflattering comments about Exxxx1's weight, so he would focus on Exxxx2, but asked Exxxx1 to be a "friend with benefits." Allegedly.

There was one chick who didn't dump him, she was his same age (mid-forties, according to the fellow giving me the story, but it sure is a juicy one!) So as the woman his same age was falling for him he was looking for a younger woman with $$$$. He rejected the woman he had used on so many occasions saying to his boyfriend "She's on the same website. She's a big girl. She knows what to expect." How utterly crass.

According to the boyfriend "Exxxx2 met him for dates, and he was jumping for joy that this one was "going dutch," paying for half of it."

His plan seemed to be working to get supported by some unsuspecting woman. He told the boyfriend he would have to "share time" with him, according to the fellow I spoke with and who gave me information via e mail and phone. Mr. Casanova told the boyfriend he was "taking it slow" with the new one, but three weeks in he was very loud, rubbing it in the boyfriend's face (according to my source,) talking on the phone in a very loud voice that it was time for sexual relations. So much for "taking it slow." So much for the relationship with the boyfriend. He wrote this: "At 3 in the morning I had a bit of a panic attack. I got up and left. Went home in the cold of a January morning. After reading him a text that my ex boyfriend was in touch with me."

The boyfriend told me that he blocked him on the phone and text. On the morning of February 5th he claims that a check he gave his boyfriend, cashed in January, was "double deposited" into his bank account in February, throwing the account into mayhem.

"My thought was that he wanted to get my attention. He certainly did. My bank told me to ask him to file a police report. The bank wanted to make sure that he wasn't the culprit."

I asked the victim what his thoughts were?

"I think he had an accomplice, because he's in the financial world. I think he and the accomplice wanted to rip me off and that maybe I would call. He called me, and he started talking like nothing happened and everything would be as it was."

So I asked, what did you do?

"I connected with people who treat me with respect. Saw the difference, and replied to a nice text that he sent: Get tested. Go (expletive) yourself. Goodbye."

Wow. Now that's called strength. It's also - if this story as told to me is true (and this writer did receive the doubly deposited check image and the image of the original date of the check being cashed, so the double deposit appears to be a fact) more evidence that when online dating, perhaps both sexes better sit down and have a heart-to-heart about what each person really is about.

You see, online daters can just lie about their age. They can lie about many things, but their pattern of behavior should be obvious. If you see kids on a site, and the man or woman want to jump into bed on the second date, then go to the dictionary and look up caveat emptor: "Let the buyer beware."

noun

1. the principle that the buyer alone is responsible for checking the quality and suitability of goods before a purchase is made.

One should also look up "Double Presentment" of a check. Old Judy has never heard of it, and I've been around the block more than a few times!

See this article - it is scary!

Cashing the Same Check Twice: The New Era of Check Fraud

https://www.trustbgw.com/blog/...

*Judy's opinion. This aspect of the story I wanted to post separately as to not disrupt the flow. On Christmas eve, rather than spending it with the boyfriend, he spent it with a woman, allegedly having a wild time in bed all night and early morning. When the boyfriend was allowed in on Christmas morning Mr. Casanova was purportedly too tired, but allegedly yelled at my source.

They went to Christmas Mass where the boyfriend alleges that Mr. Casanova kissed him in front of the congregation during "Oh Come, All Ye Faithful." The boyfriend says he went to the men's room to compose himself, tears were flowing from the intimacy. They got back to the fellow's apartment and he tried to get the boyfriend to eat a peanut butter brownie made by the woman who slept over. The boyfriend spit it out into the sink. Later the man came up behind the boyfriend to try to ram another of the brownies down his throat. Battery, in my opinion.

"He committed battery on his ex wife when he tried to grab the phone away from her. Her mother in law threatened to kill him, according to him. We hadn't talked for three days because of his behavior, but he begged me to come over to help him. The police did call and he was nutty enough to admit what he did to the ex wife." He also later punched out the television set before a Dallas Cowboy game. This writer saw the sticker for the town to remove the television set.

"I bought the sticker for him, $20.00, to tell him that he was having me removed along with the TV set. And then I said goodbye."