Understanding Shared Parenting

Child custody is often at the center of divorces and other family court cases because each parent wants equal time with their child. The courts tend to follow the rule of what’s in the “best interests of the child” which may or may not include equal parenting time.

Shared parenting, or joint physical custody, refers to the amount of time each parent spends with the child. Joint legal custody is a separate issue and revolves around the decision-making process pertaining to the child in regards to medical, education, religious, and other life decisions concerning the child.

The Positives of Shared Parenting

Shared parenting, when done correctly, can have a very positive impact on a child’s life. They are able to develop a deep relationship with each parent, often avoiding the feelings of abandonment and neglect that some children experience in a bitter custody battle.

The child also learns the value of keeping track of their own things, since they are moving between two homes on a regular basis. The parents benefit as well, since neither experiences the full effect of being a single parent a majority of the time. Responsibilities concerning the child are split equally, leading to less stress for both parents.

The Negatives of Shared Parenting

It takes strong communication between both parties to effectively execute shared parenting. Since the parents have regular contact with each other, they need to put their personal issues aside to eliminate tension around the child. This may be particularly difficult if the breakup between the parents was bitter.

Not all children cope with a shared parenting schedule well. A child that is anxious and has a difficult time adjusting to changes may not be able to live in two separate homes on a regular basis. Shared parenting, for these children, can lead to physical and psychological effects.

Executing Shared Parenting

A shared parenting schedule requires that both parents effectively communicate with each other and the child on a regular basis. Keeping on track with a calendar of events like school functions, doctor’s appointments, and after-school activities can make shared parenting easier. If both parents are committed to making it work, shared parenting is a viable option.

Originally published at theresakellington.com on September 16, 2019.